Taught to Carry Everything—But What If We Don’t Have To?

For years, I thought being a good man meant holding everything together—no matter the cost.

If a friend was struggling, I took it on.

If a family member needed help, I dropped everything.

If a coworker was overwhelmed, I made it my problem.

Sound familiar?

Many of us were taught that caring means sacrificing—that to be strong, we must carry it all, even at the cost of our own paz.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

- Caring isn’t carrying.

- Cuidar is showing up.

- Cargar is losing yourself.

- Caring is offering support.

- Carrying is feeling responsible for fixing everything.

- Caring is standing by.

- Carrying is dragging someone forward when they’re not ready.

I wish someone had told me this sooner.

Imagine how much lighter life would feel if you only carried what’s truly yours.

What’s one thing you’ve been carrying that isn’t yours to hold?

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